Comments on: Kansas vs. Cyberbullying http://blog.pcpandora.com/2008/12/31/kansas-vs-cyberbullying/ An open discussion devoted to keeping YOUR kids safe online, brought to you by the folks at PC Pandora... Wed, 10 Mar 2010 19:41:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: KenS http://blog.pcpandora.com/2008/12/31/kansas-vs-cyberbullying/comment-page-1/#comment-13349 KenS Thu, 08 Jan 2009 22:06:01 +0000 http://blog.pcpandora.com/?p=597#comment-13349 Ben, What an incredible post. Thank you for visiting the blog. I am adding you to my Blogroll now. I pretty much agree with everything you said and feel the need to add: it is a sad state of affairs when we have to make laws to take care of bullies. One of the first things parents need to teach their kids is how to act towards others. Clearly parents aren’t doing this today and - to make matters worse - if anyone else tries to teach them (since the parents aren't; i.e. the schools), the parents cry and sue. It’s ridiculous. No wonder we have a bunch of kids that don't know their behinds from their elbows and think they are infallible. Sad. Everyone else: please visit Ben's site and read his books! Ben,
What an incredible post. Thank you for visiting the blog. I am adding you to my Blogroll now. I pretty much agree with everything you said and feel the need to add: it is a sad state of affairs when we have to make laws to take care of bullies. One of the first things parents need to teach their kids is how to act towards others. Clearly parents aren’t doing this today and – to make matters worse – if anyone else tries to teach them (since the parents aren’t; i.e. the schools), the parents cry and sue. It’s ridiculous. No wonder we have a bunch of kids that don’t know their behinds from their elbows and think they are infallible. Sad.

Everyone else: please visit Ben’s site and read his books!

]]> By: Ben Leichtling http://blog.pcpandora.com/2008/12/31/kansas-vs-cyberbullying/comment-page-1/#comment-13345 Ben Leichtling Thu, 08 Jan 2009 21:02:13 +0000 http://blog.pcpandora.com/?p=597#comment-13345 Thanks for catching this article. Sorry I’m late getting to the discussion. I’m glad some states and individual school districts are making laws to protect children from bullies and bullying. Here, we need new laws because so many administrators are cowards. They’re afraid they’ll be sued by parents who want to protect their little terrorists. Therefore, we need to required administrators to act and also to protect them from suits when they do act. The amount of bullying allowed in a school is completely dependent on the administration and teachers. And I’m from Denver and know Columbine High School very well. There’s a recent case in Barcelona, Spain where a court held the school and the administrators responsible and liable for actions on their premises [http://www.barcelonareporter.com/index.php?/news/comments/school_ordered_to_pay_30000_euros_in_damages_in_bullying_case/]. When children are in their care, adults must be responsible. Two years is a long time to allow a gang of terrorists to rule. Obviously, the same lesson is relevant to our adult society. On an individual basis, parents must teach children how to face the real world in which they’ll meet bullies all their lives, even if the children are small and outnumbered. That’s independent of the type of bullying – cyberbullies, physical bullying or verbal harassment or abuse. Your software sounds like it will help with cyberbullying. Sometimes, a child can handle a bully by himself, beginning with peaceful tactics and moving step-wise toward being more firm and eventually fighting to win. Or, depending on the situation, just get the fight over with the first time. Other times, adult help is needed. As I show in my books of case studies, “How to Stop Bullies in their Tracks and “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids,” bullies are not all the same, but their patterns of behavior, their tactics, are the same. That’s why we can find ways to stop most of them. Most children will naturally bully the weak or different. They must be taught, primarily by parents, if they’re going to learn to be more civilized. In addition to professional experience, I learned practical, pragmatic methods growing up in New York City and then watching our six children and their friends and enemies. True bullies will take empathy, kindness and tolerance as weakness. They’ll think we’re easy prey. It will encourage them, like sharks, to attack us more. Bullies will show you how far you need to go to stop them. Get out of your comfort zone and stop them. When children learn how to stop bullies in their tracks, they will develop strength of character, determination, resilience and skill. They’ll need these qualities to succeed in the real-world. Please examine my website and blog (http://www.BulliesBeGone.com). Best wishes, Ben Thanks for catching this article. Sorry I’m late getting to the discussion.

I’m glad some states and individual school districts are making laws to protect children from bullies and bullying. Here, we need new laws because so many administrators are cowards. They’re afraid they’ll be sued by parents who want to protect their little terrorists. Therefore, we need to required administrators to act and also to protect them from suits when they do act.

The amount of bullying allowed in a school is completely dependent on the administration and teachers. And I’m from Denver and know Columbine High School very well.

There’s a recent case in Barcelona, Spain where a court held the school and the administrators responsible and liable for actions on their premises [http://www.barcelonareporter.com/index.php?/news/comments/school_ordered_to_pay_30000_euros_in_damages_in_bullying_case/]. When children are in their care, adults must be responsible. Two years is a long time to allow a gang of terrorists to rule. Obviously, the same lesson is relevant to our adult society.

On an individual basis, parents must teach children how to face the real world in which they’ll meet bullies all their lives, even if the children are small and outnumbered. That’s independent of the type of bullying – cyberbullies, physical bullying or verbal harassment or abuse. Your software sounds like it will help with cyberbullying.

Sometimes, a child can handle a bully by himself, beginning with peaceful tactics and moving step-wise toward being more firm and eventually fighting to win. Or, depending on the situation, just get the fight over with the first time. Other times, adult help is needed.

As I show in my books of case studies, “How to Stop Bullies in their Tracks and “Parenting Bully-Proof Kids,” bullies are not all the same, but their patterns of behavior, their tactics, are the same. That’s why we can find ways to stop most of them.

Most children will naturally bully the weak or different. They must be taught, primarily by parents, if they’re going to learn to be more civilized. In addition to professional experience, I learned practical, pragmatic methods growing up in New York City and then watching our six children and their friends and enemies.

True bullies will take empathy, kindness and tolerance as weakness. They’ll think we’re easy prey. It will encourage them, like sharks, to attack us more. Bullies will show you how far you need to go to stop them. Get out of your comfort zone and stop them.

When children learn how to stop bullies in their tracks, they will develop strength of character, determination, resilience and skill. They’ll need these qualities to succeed in the real-world.

Please examine my website and blog (http://www.BulliesBeGone.com).

Best wishes,
Ben

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